Updated: Aug 16, 2021
What it means to be a highly sensitive person (HSP)
Current figures suggest that highly sensitive people make up 15-20% of the population, both men and women in equal numbers. Contrary to what some may believe, being an HSP is not a disorder but a biological difference we are born with. Being an HSP comes with it a host of strengths and advantages, however, cultural and societal beliefs and expectations of both genders can see us HSP's struggling to come to terms with our authentic self and our place in the world.
I was in my late twenties and early thirties when I started to come to terms with being an HSP. The last decade of exploring and embracing this has been a true joy and has led me to support and coach other HSP's on this journey of acceptance and understanding of this unique, authentic, and innate part of ourselves.
HSP's are more affected by outside stimuli. Instead of the stimulus being in the background, it is right up there in front. We may struggle at times with bright lights, noise and extremely busy places.
We process information quickly (part of our superpower)
We are sponges to other people's moods. People may describe you as understanding, you might be the go-to person for them. This can be a blessing and a curse and requires some careful boundary placing.
We don't like last-minute changes. Usually, this trait appears in our workplace. I always remember working with someone who loved to change things at the last minute and it would throw me into a spin. It wasn't until I spoke to other HSP's about this that the pattern started to appear, we don't like that last-minute change.
We need alone time. HSP's can be introverts, extroverts, and anything in between, the fact that we need alone time can often see us as being labeled as introverts, which then throws people when we are seen as the life of the party at times! HSP's need a lot of recharge time, time to quieten the stimuli, time to just be, time to switch off.
Routine, Sleep, diet, exercise. HSP's are more likely to get "Hangry", if we are tired and hungry it can easily disrupt our mood and everything can look bleak. Whilst this may be true for all of us, HSP's are more wired into their internal emotions and this can seem at times overwhelming. A regular 8 hours of sleep, regular meals, and regular exercise are all crucial for HSP's.
I want you to know that if you are an HSP, you CAN thrive and flourish, this world needs more of you being you!
We see a deeper side to life, shades and colours of life, we can use them to enrich our lives rather than detract from it and in turn help others to see this deeper nature of why we are here.
We are amazing, gentle and compassionate leaders. Yes, we may be in the minority but don't let that put you off. I remember reading Max De Pree's quote ...
“The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you.”
Whilst we may steer away from cutthroat business, we are needed as the kind and compassionate leaders we are.
When we accept our true nature, those ripples flow outwards, allowing others to be just as they are too. It is no selfish act to work on our own self-growth and discovery.
So if society and belief have told you that being sensitive is a weakness, I am here to tell you otherwise, we need you to be you, you are amazing and unique.
Our unique take on the world can often make us feel overwhelmed and at times as if we want the world to stop for a while, whilst we gather our senses.
HSP's need to develop and patrol boundaries and to look closely at what they need in order to thrive. Taking the time to align all of this with your unique values and strengths can create some amazing transformation and help you to fall back in love with life.
I know what it is like to live as an HSP and am passionate about supporting other HSP's to thrive and flourish in this world, gaining a sense of belonging and embracing their true nature.
Not all HSP's are the same, we are all different so my coaching is person-centered, we work on what you want to work on, through your eyes and perspective, I walk alongside you as coach and fellow HSP to discover your unique journey through life.
My sessions are designed with HSP's traits in mind, often the journey starts with awareness and acceptance, so we start by learning the basics of mindfulness and meditation, which can support us when we feel overwhelmed.
Sessions include space (being in nature), lots of pauses, and time. I don't put any time limits on, we agree on a set number of hours and they can be used as and when you need the support. We can look at boundary setting, values and meaning, setting routines, and work on any beliefs that may be holding you back. In essence, we work together to uncover your true authentic self.
There could perhaps be no better time than now to embrace this part of yourself, to work with it, not against it. Your sensitivity is your greatest strength.
If you would like to learn more about HSP coaching and arrange a free introduction call to talk it through further, please contact me on email@example.com or book using our calendar at